Children can feel and express anger at a very young age. As they grow older, their understanding towards people and things around them starts to advance. Therefore, their way of expressing anger will also change, eventually.
As they grow up, situations that will cause them to become angry will increase. By now, they tend to understand more about their surroundings and had been in a lot of situations that would probably make them angry. All these are part of their development process.
The family plays a very important role in the emotional growth of the children, which has a direct influence on how they feel and the way they express their anger. Research shows that most children tend to imitate the behavior of their parents, whether directly or indirectly. So please, do not do things that you would not want your children to follow, in front of them. The surrounding at home is also very important as it plays a key role in the emotional development of the children.
I will share with you 5 very simple, yet proven to be effective ways that you can handle your children when they are in anger.
1) As a responsible parent, try to change the environment at home to prevent experiences or situations that will lead to unnecessary stress, anger or frustration between you and your children.
2) Do not take their anger personally. This will have direct influence on them. The angrier you are, the more anger they might have inside them too. Take a break before everything goes out of hand.
3) Try to direct their attention away from the current situation. Try to distract them from the situation, and get a break to cool things off before it gets worse.
4) It is very important that we as parents do not give in when our children are having their tantrums. If we do, they will think that by acting in that way, they can get what they want from us.
5) Do not lecture or hit your children when they are in anger, or for no particular reasons. It will only make things worse. Keep it for another day. Try to have a slow conversation with them to cool them down.
I hope these few tips help. Get the rest of them at Jamie's web site.
Child Anger Management
Saturday, May 12, 2007
Wednesday, May 9, 2007
Anger Management Tips
Anger is an emotion all of us have experienced not just once but many, many times.
Although anger is normal, when left unchecked it can have countless negative effects on us. It can destroy relationships, ruin careers and in a worst-case scenario, it can even lead to committing a crime.
Therefore it is critical that we learn how to deal with and manage anger effectively.
Here are some down-to-earth anger management tips that you can use:
a. If you have a close friend or family member who is understanding and easy to talk to, it might be good for you to reach out to them. As you know when an individual becomes angry this person becomes incapable of seeing the other side of the dispute. Talking to someone may help you share your side of the story. It can also help you sort through the issues involved and make the party’s concerned look at (and hopefully clarify) the situation from both sides. This anger management tip may work well for some people.
b. Spending some time alone is another good anger management tip. Temporarily remove yourself from the environment that seems to frustrate and irritate you. Getting away from the situation that triggered your anger may help you to see things differently. And possible solutions to the problem at hand may be identified.
c. Another tip that I’ve personally tried is this: Have you ever found yourself so angry with someone that you wanted to pulverize that person? Well you can't literally do that because that would just make things worse. So one way to handle this situation is to go to the nearest gym and pound away at the heavy bag there. If no gym is available, get a large pillow and lock yourself in your room. Imagine that the pillow is the person who wronged you. Hold the pillow in one hand and punch the pillow as hard as you can with the other hand. Just the mere physical effort of pounding away will feel so good. By the time you're through, your anger would have drained away. And no harm has been done.
d. Other anger management tips you can use are: deep breathing, exercise, getting more rest, getting out in nature, finding humor in the situation, and playing or listening to music.
e. Some people suggest prayer and meditation as anger management tips. Both of these suggestions involve very personal practices for an individual. Given a chance to pray and be alone with your thoughts is a good way to release tension and let the pressures of life drain away. Letting go of angry and negative thoughts will definitely make a positive change in your life. Through prayer and meditation you will be able to dig deep into your mind and soul for answers to your problems and comfort for you.
f. Write down your thoughts and feelings during a fit of anger.
You may feel as if nobody "gets" you or cares about your problems. Sharing may cause extra conflict. Lashing out will get you nowhere. On the other hand writing can help you deal with anger issues. Without anyone to talk back to you or object to what you have to say, writing can help you get your feelings off your chest and out in the open. This anger management technique can also help you identify the "triggers" that cause your angry outbursts. Thus helping you deal more effectively with them. By the way, if you use your computer to write your feelings while in an angry mood please don't take it out on your keyboard.
Since there are a number of anger management tips to choose from how do you select which one to use? The best guide is this: Select the tip which makes you feel good and drains your anger away without doing you or anyone else any harm.
To sum up: Although anger is normal, we should manage it properly to avoid all the adverse consequences uncontrolled anger can bring. In this article I have listed several practical anger management tips you can use. Just select the tip that drains your anger away and has no adverse consequences and you'll be fine.
Get your hands on the most successful anger management program available on-line today!
Anger Management
Although anger is normal, when left unchecked it can have countless negative effects on us. It can destroy relationships, ruin careers and in a worst-case scenario, it can even lead to committing a crime.
Therefore it is critical that we learn how to deal with and manage anger effectively.
Here are some down-to-earth anger management tips that you can use:
a. If you have a close friend or family member who is understanding and easy to talk to, it might be good for you to reach out to them. As you know when an individual becomes angry this person becomes incapable of seeing the other side of the dispute. Talking to someone may help you share your side of the story. It can also help you sort through the issues involved and make the party’s concerned look at (and hopefully clarify) the situation from both sides. This anger management tip may work well for some people.
b. Spending some time alone is another good anger management tip. Temporarily remove yourself from the environment that seems to frustrate and irritate you. Getting away from the situation that triggered your anger may help you to see things differently. And possible solutions to the problem at hand may be identified.
c. Another tip that I’ve personally tried is this: Have you ever found yourself so angry with someone that you wanted to pulverize that person? Well you can't literally do that because that would just make things worse. So one way to handle this situation is to go to the nearest gym and pound away at the heavy bag there. If no gym is available, get a large pillow and lock yourself in your room. Imagine that the pillow is the person who wronged you. Hold the pillow in one hand and punch the pillow as hard as you can with the other hand. Just the mere physical effort of pounding away will feel so good. By the time you're through, your anger would have drained away. And no harm has been done.
d. Other anger management tips you can use are: deep breathing, exercise, getting more rest, getting out in nature, finding humor in the situation, and playing or listening to music.
e. Some people suggest prayer and meditation as anger management tips. Both of these suggestions involve very personal practices for an individual. Given a chance to pray and be alone with your thoughts is a good way to release tension and let the pressures of life drain away. Letting go of angry and negative thoughts will definitely make a positive change in your life. Through prayer and meditation you will be able to dig deep into your mind and soul for answers to your problems and comfort for you.
f. Write down your thoughts and feelings during a fit of anger.
You may feel as if nobody "gets" you or cares about your problems. Sharing may cause extra conflict. Lashing out will get you nowhere. On the other hand writing can help you deal with anger issues. Without anyone to talk back to you or object to what you have to say, writing can help you get your feelings off your chest and out in the open. This anger management technique can also help you identify the "triggers" that cause your angry outbursts. Thus helping you deal more effectively with them. By the way, if you use your computer to write your feelings while in an angry mood please don't take it out on your keyboard.
Since there are a number of anger management tips to choose from how do you select which one to use? The best guide is this: Select the tip which makes you feel good and drains your anger away without doing you or anyone else any harm.
To sum up: Although anger is normal, we should manage it properly to avoid all the adverse consequences uncontrolled anger can bring. In this article I have listed several practical anger management tips you can use. Just select the tip that drains your anger away and has no adverse consequences and you'll be fine.
Get your hands on the most successful anger management program available on-line today!
Anger Management
Monday, May 7, 2007
Anger Management
Welcome to my anger management blog. Here you will learn what anger management really is and understand the anger triggers that are uniquely yours.
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